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Continuous parents call on psychiatric help because their child is bullied. Parents feels powerlessness when they appear (in meeting with) school, they are suffering on behave of child and gets a depressive reaction, says psychiatrist Dag Oulie.
Dr. Oulie: Dag Oulie is the psychiatrist who raise (sound) the alarm (on this issue) because it makes parents ill on child’s situation (when child is bullied). Dr. Oulie tells that more and more parents call on psychiatric help because their child is bullied.
Parents feel powerlessness when they appear school (meet school), they suffer on behave of child and gets depressive reaction, says Dag Oulie. -During 10 - 15 years as a psychiatrist I never received as many enquiries from parents of bullied, as I did the latest six month. I have no explanation on why the enquiries increase, says Oulie, it is only his own registration.
This is parents which fallow child’s pain twenty - four hours, (around the clock) for years, parents beg for help, but encounters the wall (have their back to the wall).
Parents feels powerlessness. When they get in touch with school, the headmaster denies, inspectors and teachers says bullying does is not exist. Parents feels counteracted (opposed, worked against). Very, very many parents (a lot of) parents feels (find them selves) bullied because they are fighting on (in behave of ) the child. When the pain because of the child bullied is in combination (with) meeting powerlessness, some of parents gets a depressive reaction. Some turn rage on school or the headmaster, but many parents turn rage against themselves. They blame themselves for not be able to take care of their children. This has been a huge problem, says Oulie.
Parents tells Oulie about their child’s everyday life influenced (show signs |
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of) on violence, ostracized (freeze-out) and slander. The children perceive (understand) the adults inability to act as a betrayal (treachery). When children tells they are bullied, parents calls on school. When school says there is no problem, some parents believe in it. When children feels parents do not take them seriously, they feel betrayed. If parents believe in their children, and demands school do something, perhaps (still) nothing is happening. Also this is a betrayal, says Dag Oulie.
Parents life centres often, and mostly, around the bullying the child is exposed to. The child goes to school, and are so afraid they get sick (will throw up). The teacher looks another way. Headmaster and inspector do not believe them. As a parent it is extremely difficult to except that no one is there for the child. School system and teachers as a profession do not look at (treat) bullying seriously enough, it is frightening, says psychiatrist.
My advice for parents is: go on struggle (fight), make trouble (make noise, be load) and keep going.
It is nice to parents (feels good for) parents to have someplace to turn to, a place that is not part of school bureaucratic system. Many parents feels everybody else withdraw (resigns). And then the bullying continues.
You know, nobody is bullying my friend.
If somebody cares the bullying probably may stop, says psychiatrist Dag Oulie.
When AFAM member met Dr. Oulie short time ago, she asked him if he have same experience (knowledge) on situation in 2005 as his experience from 1999.
He says even worse at the time being. He also pointed the importance that the teachers and school leadership hold (own, have) power in classroom. Otherwise power is given to the bully, and the teacher is loosing control on class (pupils). 
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